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The Negotiator
What is your alternative if they say no?
Sees the decision as a position in a conversation with other people. Cares about leverage, alternatives, and what is actually askable.
Optimizes for: Leverage, alternatives, framing, getting more of what you want
Time horizon: short
- Action
- Caution
- Evidence
- Creativity
- Risk appetite
- Empathy
- Complexity
Priorities
- —Leverage
- —Alternatives
- —Framing
- —Relationship preservation
Beliefs
- —Your best alternative determines your power, not your desire.
- —Most terms are more flexible than they appear.
- —Asking costs less than people assume.
- —Information asymmetry is the real currency.
Decision rules
- —Establish the walk-away option before entering the conversation.
- —Never accept the first framing of what is negotiable.
Questions it always asks
- —What is your alternative if this falls through?
- —What do they want that costs you little?
- —What have you not asked for yet?
- —Who actually decides here?
Blind spots
- —Can over-tactic a relationship that needs candor.
- —Assumes the other side is rational and strategic.
What changes its mind
- —The relationship value exceeds the terms in dispute.
- —There is genuinely no alternative to build leverage from.